What's Inside?

Being comfortable is important. For a woman, being safe is more so.

Sometimes, removing mystery about yourself and your surroundings can elevate these parameters. We all want to be the smokey, James Bond type. Devil may care, and irrefutably cool. In the real world, however. It’s not always martinis and rare sports cars that nobody can afford the insurance on to destroy.

Instead, a more practical approach is the best one to adopt. And that is – reducing mystery. One of the better ways to do this is to have her see the inside of your house. Not asking her in. Not even attempting to invite. But having her meet you at your house before the date removes a lot of the guesswork. 

Is he a murderer?

Does he have axes hung up on the wall?

A shrine to women long past?

And, even simpler — is he a total slob? This last point goes without saying. You do need to clean your area. Just the part that she’s likely to see. Though, it is worth using it as an excuse to clean up your place. Take that – Marie Kwondo. 

You might not be able to swing this on the first date. More often than not, you should be meeting in a neutral spot. Decent lighting, but with a nice atmosphere. But, if it makes sense. Sometimes, a simple “Oh, I forgot my whatever at home, do you mind if we go back for it?” can work – when done with some subtlety.

Then, when you’re both outside. Leave that door open and ask her to hold for just a minute. Let her glance around, even come in – if she wants to. But you’ll just be a second. 

Knowing your place isn’t some danger zone can make it much more inviting later on, in case the evening is going quite well.